Life

A guest post by  sonnika kapoor , a  friend of mine  who shared some wonderful thought with me and I thought of sharing them with you all

Sometimes I think that it is time we shrink our world to the old ways.It was so plain,simple,and natural then.Love meant love.in words and action alike.The love for brother,sister,mother,father,child and friends was genuine.it came from the heart.What we name it as sacrifice now was just a way to show love then.it never was understood as doing something extra.it was just understood as being loved.It was effortless.We played and laughed and it was hearty.we enjoyed it.laughter was never a cautious outcome with regards to the surrounding.You really laughed.woman dressed for her man.man came home yearning to see her.Children really waited for the father to return.So he could take them out.The wait was honest and the yearning lasted through day to dusk.Time was not on a wall as a reminder to turn schedules 
around.Time was for each one of us.To live.To live every moment in all its originality with all that we had for what it meant.The aroma from the kitchen gave us the Hunger pangs! We were really Hungry then. The food we relished.It tasted good everyday.No stickers on nutrition hung on the refrigerators.everybody ate the same Meal.How we waited for Sundays.It felt like a Sunday Sun rising in the morning.The Sunday Morning Air smelt different.It had a different excitement loaded with Fun n frolicking for the whole day.Everybody in the family stayed together.no mum salon or dads day with friends out.no children were out gaming at friends .Everybody stuck together.after all it was Sunday.one day after the whole week to find time together.We'd pack up for a picnic or a day of fun n sports with father n his friends.Their children are still my friends.I am sure they know what it meant.I guess Beer must be better then,because everybody who drank rocked the chair under the shade with his feet up and laughed.I saw that and i want to feel it now. 

 How difficult it seems now to get everybody together like that.Its no fun to be home on Sunday is anymore.its no fun eating.as we eat too much everywhere.I think we don't even know love.How to love and be loved .we don't know whether we are loved or are we being loved back.This whole life has drifted like a leaves off its bark.The twigs I wonder where stay drifted.But like each traveller one day returns home.I feel we all will.For how long can one travel without the shade of love we call home. We are missing so much.We must want it all back.

Above the Law

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Crowns for Sale

Recently I participated in a beauty pageant " Mrs India Worldwide like most of the matches this one seemed  fixed  too , a bitter experience for those who went back empty handed despite being a deserving candidates.  All those aspiring models or young girls wanting to participate in a beauty pageant must go through the details before taking a plunge into it. For me and for that matter for most of us a beauty pageant means beauty with brains but this one was with a difference , neither one needed the beauty nor the brains to be a winner and it became evident from the way the crowns and titles were conferred on non deserving candidates. In fact after coming back home I warned my daughter( who is eligible to participate) to drop the idea   unless and until I have he money to buy a crown . I am a well established business woman ,successful and accomplished  with many feathers in my hat .I  was also a cover girl for Women's Era magazine , a feature model who has tasted success . Crown  was the least  that I had on my mind when I went for it but I wanted do kill my crave for not having been able to participate in one in my young age How many women in 50's have the courage  to compete with girls in 20's that too in a beauty pageant but that's  me. And I did not come empty hands , the only probable reason could be that I was a very strong and deserving contestant  they could have deprived me of one or two or may be three titles but  had they deprived me of all their intentions would have been questioned by me , by a woman who knows how to stand for not only her own rights but for the others rights too. So I can say it was their need to silence me .

A girl Resica Naicker  who claimed to have won Mrs South Africa ( Though her name is not there in the list of Mrs South Africa since  1956 to 2013 in wikipedia plz click to check)  )And it was not only her even the organisers stood in  support of her claims.  Well she  neither had the body or the body language nor did she know that not only one  is not supposed to wear open toed shoes on ramp but there is also negative marking for that ,To top it up she does not have an Indian Passport where as it was mandatory in the contract . 

She  came to India to represent South Africa and flew down not only along with  her company CEO  but  also  the CEO's entire family joined her to stay in  the same hotel where we were lodged in . As per my knowledge neither any of the family member nor friends of contestants are allowed to meet or see them during the grooming session. But four people flying down from South Africa only pointed out " She  knows she is the winner"

                                                        RESICA NAICKER

      

 1  Resica  Naicker 37 with visible flab all around  her body , I should rather say quite masculine  was crowned the winner . A teacher by profession who was also conferred with titles Mrs Beautiful Eyes despite the fact she wore  grey contacts , without those contacts she didn't have the eyes to flaunt , yet she was allowed to wear them on where as in any beauty pageant the first thing the contestants are made to remove are the coloured contacts and hair extensions .
   

 2 A teacher who does not have a  Doctorate degree nor any of us got to have a glimpse of intellectual side  of hers was also conferred with Mrs Intellectual   where as DR Diana Grover  who is an E N T specialist , a  pretty face , who is in good shape went back without a single title though Docs are known to be intellects and that. is an established fact

                                                          ALKA JAWLA

First runner up Alka Jawla 27  who from the day one behaved like a self acclaimed winner who got all the importance by the choreographer( probably he had the list of the ones who were fixed) .She led the ramp walk , dance sequence and had I not put my foot down
 she would have also  lead the gown sequence  ( will share the details how I bagged the show stopper gown in my next post) . Though she denied but she was definitely groomed  at a finishing school.(but all is fair in love and war) . An average looking IT professional who lacked the panache ,And above all she not being a mother did not qualify the participation criteria.

 Like Rescia  , Alka Jawla too was not aware of foremost rules of the ramp a big NO NO to open toes butt it did not result in to  -ve marking for either of  them and she was conferred with Mrs Catwalk ,which she truly truly deserved.She was slim but with dis-proportionate thighs and was also conferred with Mrs beautiful body I wonder how did the jury get o see her beautiful body when she did not show up her body in the  Bikini round   ! And Alka Narula (that's me) who at 50 had a well contoured ,sensual ,spotless ,all curves in right places was deprived of the "Mrs Beautiful Body " .Though the fitness trainer did mention  her  name after their eyes locked  while giving away the Title I wonder whether it was her guilt or something else that made her comment " Alka Narula was another strong contestant for this title but may be she will do better next time " Those words came from the horses mouth only after the  anchor asked  to make a guess and the only name spelt out by most of  the contestants was "Alka Narula"
Below is my pic for _ Ms  Beautiful Body " comparison 

ALKA NARULA


The second runner up again a N R I Bhavya Gehlot who spoke well but had too broad a butt that almost seemed like that of an -X, she had the body language but was too huge for a woman , in fact has loose fat all over her body. I can't say about the viewers but for me it was quite a repelling sight . Yes , certainly if she could lose weight she may look good on ramp , neither could I see a deserving body nor could I see much of her brains but  arrogance a big YES YES. As per organisers 60% of the marks were given by the organisers  for good conduct on day to day basis but this girl was one of the notorious gang who comprised of all NR Is (except Resica who was too good to be true probably she knew it from before she came to India or probably she played her cards sensibly )and few who had come from finishing schools .
                                                   

                                  BHAVYA  GEHLOT

So was the story of top three . I will be sharing the titles  those went wrong in my next post.

        Disclaimer-

*** Pls note that my intention is not to discourage any one from participate in Beauty pageant but apart from warning it its an advice to go through finishing schools as they are the negotiators between the organisers and the participants  also must scan the background of the organisers and go ahead only if they have a good reputation .
 
*** Pls note this post is completely based on my experience  & my personal opinion
     Its  not meant to hurt or harm  any body's feelings or image.

Photo Credits - google image search result 

"Justice for rape survivors "

Please click on the link and join the cause
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"One more pedantic and "follow the law blindly type judgement has come and the young criminal in Delhi rape case has been sent to child reform home as a punishment for his heinous crimes.


Any crime of such nature is a crime of uncontrolled hormones. This lower court judge got confused between a person and his uncontrolled hormones.We have 2 interesting case wherein two persons, one a juvenile and another an old man of 74 committing same type of crime. Its idiotic to attribute such type of crimes to age.

But you need extra ordinary wisdom and insight to rise above the rest,but this lower court judge is no such type " - Rana Raj K Singh , Attorney at Supreme Court of India

And do we sit and watch silently ?? What baffles me more than any thing else why are our parliamentarians quiet , if they make amendments in Supreme Court ruling in R P I act
recently why not Juvenile Justice Act .Here I appeal to the blogger community who feel stricter laws need to be introduced in juvenile justice act 
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डोर (DOAR)

[ JLT :) ] Just like that .....

जरा सूनो तो
रुक कर चलो तो
 मेरी आंखों में डूब कर कहो तो
 मैं हुं तुम्हरे दिल की परी

 सहमे से कियुन हो
 नज़्रेन  चुरा कर
 मुंह यूँ छुपा कर
 कियुन यूँ चल दीये जैसे यह नज़्रेन कभि मिली थी ही नहीं

 बेजान यह सान्सेन
 कुछ कहना यह चाहें
 मगर मेरे दिल को बहलIए
 कहतीं है मुझ से
कियुन चल दी थी तुम उस की गली

बेख़बर थी मैं तो
दे बैठी अपना दिल तुम को
कह देते जो तुम मुझ को
तेरी रंगत  ही  नहीं है
जो कह सकूं मैं तुझे मेरे दिल की परी

 मेरा दिल उस को ही चाहे
जो मुझ से लिपटी पड़ी है
मेरी बहों में खड़ी है
जिस की रंगीन निगाहें कभि चाह कर भी मुझ से दूर न हो  पायें
 जिस की हर साणस है मेरे करीब

तुम थोड़ा झुको  तो
 मुड़ कर  देखो तो
वह  जलपरी तो  है  मुझ से बंधी  है
 तुम जिस डोर को पकड़े खड़ी हो कमज़ोर  है हर एक  उस की कड़ी

 क्या कहुं मैं
 कैसे करूँ मैं  दिल अपना  काबू
 यह कैसी मझधार है
 जिस का  न कोई  छोर है
 न कोई टोड  है
 न मैं बह पाऊँ
 न  मैं डूब पाऊँ
 उस में जो अपनी ही आंखों से झलकी है  फूलझरी


zara suno toe
ruk kar chalo toe
meri aankhon mein doob kar kaho toe
keh kar toe dekho
min hoon tumhare dil ki pari

samhe se kiyun hoe
nazren chura kar
munh youn chupa kar
kiyun youn chal diye
jaise yeh nazren kabhi mili thi hi nahin

bejaan yeh saansen
kuch kehna yeh chahen
magar muskura kar
mere dil ko ruhen
kahti hain mujh se
kiyun chal di thi tum us ki gali

bekhbar thi main toe
jo de baithe apnaa dil tum ko
keh dete joe mujh ko
teri rangat hi nahi hai
joe main bulaoon mere dil ki pari


mera dil us koe chahe
joe mujh se lipti hai
meri bahon mein khadi hai
us ki rangeen nighen
mera dil us ko chahe
wohi toe hai meri dil ki pari

tum thoda juko toe
mud kar toe dekho
woh jal pari hai mujh se bandhiवह
tum jis door se tum mujh se bandhi hoe
kamzor hai woh , uski her kadi

Life ( captured on paper by a student )

There is abundance of talent on our streets , most of it goes ignored either due to lack of resource or ignorance  and only few are able to come forth and share it with the world .  It must have been 1 a.m when I landed in Chandigarh and my eyes couldn't have missed those busy fingers trying to capture life of a porter in deep sleep at the bus stand . For him it's an every day routine to spend few hours at the bus stand and capture life on paper but for me it was an overwhelming experience to flip through his art book and click some pictures.
                                         

                                     

                   


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