Updated: Mon, 20 Feb 2012 0:29 IST
Father’s name not must for passport: HC
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Utkarsh Anand : New Delhi, Mon Feb 28 2011, 00:17 hrs
A single mother’s determination in procuring a passport for her daughter without having to mention the father’s name on the document, led the Delhi High Court to announce what is likely to be hailed as a progressive ruling
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i have always said " we were not made for each other " rather than putting it as " he was not a good husband " but at the same time, i cant stop from saying " he could not make a good father ".A man who compromised a childs love for another woman ,a father who never tried to get in touch with his own blood is something , i have not been able to come to terms with till date. Such was the pain that we experienced his name is not pronounced in our house , he is HE for us , not a single picture of him in our house nor a single thing that would remind us of him . Both of us dropped his name after my divorce nor we wanted his name to be used in any of our documents like passport,or driving licence etc etc ,which was quite easy for me as i could use my fathers name but it was a major issue in my daughters case ,as in certain documents fathers name was a must,but my daughter wanted to be known as her mothers daugher and not her fathers daughter.Several times ,i would fill up forms stating my status as single and would mention , "daughter 1 No " in childrens column, which actually raised several eyebrows and a couple of times i argued "why ,cant a single woman have a child" on being asked "ma'm you are single but you mentioned you have a child" .i would see a wierd look on their face while they thought and would agree to the point i was trying to put across. I always questioned why a child be known by its fathers name,what about single mothers ? and i srongly felt there that a child should have an option to use either mothers or fathers name ,when both parents make equal contribution to bring a new life in this world why cant a child use the name of his choice or an option of mothers name be given to the child ,many may not agree with me but it seems quite okay to me.Well ,the biggest challenge for us now was to wipe out his name from our life and you may call it sheer luck or what so ever we managed to do so by writing my name in place of both mothers and fathers name.the first thing she got was her pan card with her mothers name printed on it followed by her driving licence and rest of the documents. I felt so relieved by the news of high court ruling,that fathers name is not a must in passport form in 2011 but surprisingly we are still stuck on the passport as the agents are still not accepting the form without the mention of fathers name , i thought i probably can attach the news print out and submit the form . i appreciate advice on this issue.
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i have always said " we were not made for each other " rather than putting it as " he was not a good husband " but at the same time, i cant stop from saying " he could not make a good father ".A man who compromised a childs love for another woman ,a father who never tried to get in touch with his own blood is something , i have not been able to come to terms with till date. Such was the pain that we experienced his name is not pronounced in our house , he is HE for us , not a single picture of him in our house nor a single thing that would remind us of him . Both of us dropped his name after my divorce nor we wanted his name to be used in any of our documents like passport,or driving licence etc etc ,which was quite easy for me as i could use my fathers name but it was a major issue in my daughters case ,as in certain documents fathers name was a must,but my daughter wanted to be known as her mothers daugher and not her fathers daughter.Several times ,i would fill up forms stating my status as single and would mention , "daughter 1 No " in childrens column, which actually raised several eyebrows and a couple of times i argued "why ,cant a single woman have a child" on being asked "ma'm you are single but you mentioned you have a child" .i would see a wierd look on their face while they thought and would agree to the point i was trying to put across. I always questioned why a child be known by its fathers name,what about single mothers ? and i srongly felt there that a child should have an option to use either mothers or fathers name ,when both parents make equal contribution to bring a new life in this world why cant a child use the name of his choice or an option of mothers name be given to the child ,many may not agree with me but it seems quite okay to me.Well ,the biggest challenge for us now was to wipe out his name from our life and you may call it sheer luck or what so ever we managed to do so by writing my name in place of both mothers and fathers name.the first thing she got was her pan card with her mothers name printed on it followed by her driving licence and rest of the documents. I felt so relieved by the news of high court ruling,that fathers name is not a must in passport form in 2011 but surprisingly we are still stuck on the passport as the agents are still not accepting the form without the mention of fathers name , i thought i probably can attach the news print out and submit the form . i appreciate advice on this issue.
photo credit indyeah
logo credit The Indian Express
journalism of courage
That s a good change. My friend faced a similar problem. Nice that it has changed.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, nice idea to attach the newsprint with the form. LOL..
yes Leo Paw , thats the last resort i am left with now.thank you sooooo much for your comment.
DeleteAlka... so glad to read this post. Glad we are a step closer to the spirit of independence. With the law on your side the pp should happen soon. Don't these passport officers get updates on the changing scenario ? keeping fingers crossed for the pp issue to be resolved soon.
ReplyDeleteyeah Kajal , fingers crossed ...waiting for it to happen now.thank you soooo much for your visit.
DeleteYou are fighting the good fight. I wish you strength, and hope things work out soon.
ReplyDeletethank you soooooo much manpreet.
Deleteoh i didn't know about this new development. very welcome i must say. i too used to wonder why it was a MUST and how would single mothers sail through this. good work Alka and thanks for sharing this through the post. your readers will spread the word and more and more people will be aware
ReplyDeleteits been a long fight sujatha....its sure to happen now.thank you for your valuable comment.
DeleteBest wishes Alka, to resolve this issue too... Things a re changing and only if the pace of change could be faster, people may be able to breathe more easily in these situations:0
ReplyDeleteiknow rahul ..bt you kow our law and order situation...justice delayed is justice denied ...bt one has to wait.
DeleteBest wishes to you. The change is acceptable, logical and appropriate
ReplyDeleteMy hearty support!
ReplyDeletethank you amit...thank you sooo much for your constant support.
Deletemay god give you strength and my best wishes to you .. hope everything goes well as you desire in life !
ReplyDeleteregards
rahul
thank you soooo much for your support rahul.
DeleteNice to know the ruling of the supreme court. It was about time that we moved on from the age old concept of a male oriented society. It is still heartening to know that the implementation is still battling with confusions of the ruling. I do hope they realize the importance soon enough..
ReplyDeleteyeah i know...i have come a long way thru and wont give up.thank you for your visit muktamanassu.
DeleteAlka I really admire your strength and courage ... god bless you and your daughter ...
ReplyDeletethank you sangeeta...thank you sooooo much.
DeleteI can identify with your feelings entirely out here, though in many ways you might think of me as on the other side of the fence. Given the evolving realities of our social fabric, it is essential that such archaic norms be dropped. I have nothing but the highest regard for the single home-making/bread-earning parent! May all your dreams come true, Alka.
ReplyDeletenot at all subhorup ,in fact best of my friends r men and support me fully on ths issue, lets face the fact why should a child b known by his fathers name ,who has made no contribution in bringing up a child.
DeleteA good step forward-much needed in these times of increasing divorces,betrayals & single moms---just imagine,it is the mother who bears all the pain & discomfort of child bearing ;but her name is not good enough...it has been a man's world all along...hope things change fast.
ReplyDeleteyeah indu....its not acceptable any more.
DeleteIt is judgements like these which reinforce our faith in judiciary. I admire the way you have handled your life and I am sure your daughter must be proud to have a mother like you.
ReplyDeleteyeah ,she is best of my friend now,v r extremely close and share an unimaginable bond.thank you for your visit swapna.
DeleteAlka, glad that i read this post. You seems to be a fighter, & I hope will eventually come out a winner.
ReplyDeleteyes Nitin this life is all about fight and survival of the fittest.thank you for your visit and valuable comment.
DeleteAlka.. Gr8 news... We always see it in the movies, why not in reality.. A person who has managed to do it is Sanjay Bhansali, the director, who uses his mothers name, but that was more, because he chose to change.. Very important that a mother is given the right equally to decide when the need arises and not dependent on a child attaining maturity.
ReplyDeletetrue Rajesh,but its different when you r a celeb ,being an average person its a tough fight.
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I agree with your point Alka jhi.
ReplyDeleteYou have raised a very honest question.
Its a real good idea to submit the passpost form along with the newspaper cut out.
I hope everything goes well :).
All the best jhi :).
Fingers Crosses :).
yeah princess poo , thats the only choice i am left with...thank you for your valuable comment.
DeleteAlka it is struggle of people like you that give shape to society of any era.
ReplyDeleteI am proud to know that I am one of those lucky people who know you.
thank you neeraj,thank you soooo much for your kind words
DeleteGood to see law catching up with common sense, at least at the highest level....
ReplyDeleteyeah satish , hope some sense will prevail soon , and thank you for your visit.
Deletetoo complicated for me to understand... my kids want to be with me after my divorce... but i would still write their mom's name in the mother's name column... biologically we can't change certain things
ReplyDeleteinstead why not have an extra column in the forms which would better explain the current status...
have to think hard on this... let the divorce happen first..