"Amid the clamour for punishment to be awarded to Tehelka magazine’s founder-editor Tarun Tejpal for alleged sexual assault and the harassment complaint made against a former Supreme Court judge, women’s rights activists have lauded the trend of women taking on the “powerful and the mighty” as a sign of empowerment - The Hindu
These episodes remind me of the incident that haunts me till date . It was in the first quarter of year 1998 when I separated from my Ex husband . I registered a complaint against him in women's cell in Lajpat Nagar Police station N Delhi which was forwarded to the main Moti Bagh branch where it was being dealt by a senior Officer ,a commissioner then who was probably in late fifties I had charged my Ex of infidility and converting to Islam for the purpose of getting married to another girl while he was still married to me . After several meetings with the officer at the women's cell for several months I got no where nor I saw a ray of hope of getting justice when this officer totally devasted me with his one remark " You have a nice figure " The message came to me loud and clear from the man who was there to secure a woman's rights " Girl you can not get justice here " and discouraged me from ever appearing in the women's cell again and deprived me and my daughter of our rights. I did not have the strength to go back to him for justice as I had none by my side at that point of time , no friends , no family . Neither I was aware of the fact that a strong action can be taken against him nor I had the resources and the time to fight it out . For me then time was money and arranging one meal a day became the priority. Had he taken my case genuinely I would have been better placed now in all respects in .He made me lose faith in both police and judiciary that resulted in my divorce with a mutual consent , which otherwise would have been a war ,if not for myself but for the alimony and rights of my daughter Thanks to the supreme court guidelines and the awareness that is being brought about by the the media that more and more women are feeling empowered to complain against the culprit ." The change from “suffering in silence” to “taking on the powerful” is a sign of women finally finding their voice.
These episodes remind me of the incident that haunts me till date . It was in the first quarter of year 1998 when I separated from my Ex husband . I registered a complaint against him in women's cell in Lajpat Nagar Police station N Delhi which was forwarded to the main Moti Bagh branch where it was being dealt by a senior Officer ,a commissioner then who was probably in late fifties I had charged my Ex of infidility and converting to Islam for the purpose of getting married to another girl while he was still married to me . After several meetings with the officer at the women's cell for several months I got no where nor I saw a ray of hope of getting justice when this officer totally devasted me with his one remark " You have a nice figure " The message came to me loud and clear from the man who was there to secure a woman's rights " Girl you can not get justice here " and discouraged me from ever appearing in the women's cell again and deprived me and my daughter of our rights. I did not have the strength to go back to him for justice as I had none by my side at that point of time , no friends , no family . Neither I was aware of the fact that a strong action can be taken against him nor I had the resources and the time to fight it out . For me then time was money and arranging one meal a day became the priority. Had he taken my case genuinely I would have been better placed now in all respects in .He made me lose faith in both police and judiciary that resulted in my divorce with a mutual consent , which otherwise would have been a war ,if not for myself but for the alimony and rights of my daughter Thanks to the supreme court guidelines and the awareness that is being brought about by the the media that more and more women are feeling empowered to complain against the culprit ." The change from “suffering in silence” to “taking on the powerful” is a sign of women finally finding their voice.
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