"whats's your problem " says Veena Malik......

 Veena is back in news ! Though i am not a person who is too much in to bollywood so most of the times  i am unable to recognise the faces except for few Mallika Sherawat,Rakhi Sawant and latest on list Veena Malik ,all three known for controversies but honestly they really have got the nerve of the audience and  being one of them ,i remember  their names by heart , though i don't remember having seen a Hindi movie for past few years , but have seen these faces  in news on eruption of a new contoversy .

Veena got the mantra to remain in the lime light by constantly getting in to one or the other controversy,i find her a smart chick who knows her way up on top. Her entry in bollywood started with match fixing scandal followed by scripted love affair in big boss and now her nude picture on the cover page of an Indian magazine FHM with the initials of Pakistan's feared and powerful intelligence agency on her arm has triggered fury across this conservative nation  though audience of both the countries are thoroughly enjoying it.

 .Conservative cleric Maulana Abdul Qawi declared on Aaj TV on Saturday that her latest venture into controversy was a "shame for all Muslims."

 In an interview with Pakistani Geo television broadcast Saturday, however, Though Veena has not denied having been photographed for a "bold but not nude shot "  but claims that photo was published in violation of her agreement with FHM where as  magazine editor Kabeer Sharma said Malik had given full consent for the shoot and the picture. Asked by reporters whether Pakistan would "pursue the matter" legally, the country's Interior Minister Rehman Malik said Saturday, "First, let us see whether it is real or fake."

 

No matter what one says but Veena sure is to get away with " whats your problem " after all its Veena Malik who knows once the magazine is public Maulanas to  Rehman Malik are all gonna like it and forget what they didn't like , and that is  HER GUTS !!

divorce a taboo

I am divorced and i dont like to use my husbands surname and neither does my daughter but sadly enough everytime she had to fill a form for college application or something there was always an option of fathers name but or local guardian but not of mother name it disturbed me and frustrated me to go to her college explain the situation and have my name written in front of fathers name.
In the metropolitan cities of india a small percentage of people are divorced and are quite open about it but for smaller states and cities like jammu,kanpur etc divorce is a big deal.12years since my divorce yet except for my immediate family in jammu(my hometown)nobody is told that i got divorced as per the distant relatives and friends even uncles and aunts for that matter i am still living happily with my husband in delhi.Though deep in their hearts they do know that i am divorced yet everytime i or my daughter get to see them the same question how is x in a sarcastic manner(thats my ex husband for you).
I cant help but wonder do you really expect everyone to find their soulmate in one go?i mean of course their are many fortunate people who do but not everyone can. When you are young  you make mistakes,you fall in love, get married and after a while realise its not working,he/she is not the one for you,so for the sake of society do you continue suffering in an emotionally or physicaly abusive relationship that is not working or do you set yourself free and live in peace?Why in our country is divorce still a taboo?

sutta and hookah

 Well in our country ie india the legal smoking age is 18 actually theres no legal smoking age but you should be 18 if you have to purchase ciggarettes,not that anyone checks your id.i honestly feel its just for the heck of it.My daughters school friends were smoking already when they were in class 10th that mean around the age of 15 they could easily manage to purchase cigarettes from any vendor without a problem.
Last night i had gone to a karaoke bar in up market south delhi select citiwalk mall with some friends and was surprise to see kids from around 15years of age or maybe below were puffing away with a bottle of beer in their hands and some hookah.Hookah has been in the news lately for being more dangerous than cigarettes itself i was reading 1hour of smoking hookah is equal to having 100ciggarettes in an hours time yet no one seemed to care even.I realised that even cigarette packs have a big warning on it saying cigarette smoking is injurious to health along with a picture of badly effected lungs(by smoking)yet those who have to smoke kids or adults go to the vendor purchase cigarettes ignore the warning and continue smoking.I wonder if the laws made by our govt.are actually effective?or is it just that they haven't been implemented well?or is it us who don't give a damn to the warnings and continue smoking?why make laws that will be flouted?For example in Gujarat alcohol is banned yet those who want to drink manage to smuggle alcohol in the state.I honestly think rather than setting an age that is permissible to purchase cigarettes and the warning signs on cigarette packs if the govt.really wants cigarette consumption by youngsters and everyone else to go down they should simply raise the price of smokes to 100 rupees(around 2dollars) per cigarette now that might help a bit.

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10 wierd names from around the world

I have been cracking up on this and wonder what was going through the minds of these parents while naming there kids?what made them decide on these names,we often as per tradition or due to social reasons or our own personal choiceand normally dont  name are kids tubelight or banana and am glad that my parents named me alka Presenting 10funniest names in the world rounded up from the internet(yes i have been googling too much lately)

1. Batman Bin Suparman

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21 year old man from singapore

2.Dick Assman

http://www.brianstockton.com/

3.Joker Arroyo

4. GoldenPalaceDotCom Silverman

http://www.casinoadvisor.com/

The golden palace casino wanted some publicity for that they paid some parents to name goldenpalacedotcomsilverman i wonder what the kid feels about it.

5. Rocket

http://www.dailyfill.com/

name of movie director  robert rodrigues kid

6. Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116

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a swedish boy i wonder how they pronounce the name i cant figure it out.

7.Sage Moonblood
name of sylvestor stallones child










8.Audio Science

Child Of: Actress Shannyn Sossamon








9.Moxie Crimefighter

Child Of: Penn Jillett







10.Diva Thin Muffin

Child Of: Frank Zappa

am i dead or alive cotards syndrome

I was sitting idle today with absoulutely no way to kill time so i went to my best friend google and by chance came across this rare disease called cotards syndrome also known as the walking corpse disease.
I got thinking  how would it feel leading my enitire life thinking that i am dead and in rare case immortal,leading a delusional life smelling rotten flesh and being certain that its my own.I shudder at the thought of leading a life like death,and my sympathies with those who are suffering from this syndrome.i had never heard of this disorder my entire life and was shocked to read about it,researched some more from wikepedia and this is the information i got thought of sharing it.

The Cotard delusion or Cotard's syndrome or Walking Corpse Syndrome^[1] is a rare neuropsychiatric disorder in which people hold a delusional belief that they are dead (either figuratively or literally), do not exist, are putrefying, or have lost their blood or internal organs. In rare instances, it can include delusions of immortality.^[2]
Young and Leafhead describe a modern-day case of Cotard delusion in a patient who suffered brain injury after a motorcycle accident:^[6]

[The patient's] symptoms occurred in the context of more general feelings of unreality and being dead. In January 1990, after his discharge from hospital in Edinburgh, his mother took him to South Africa. He was convinced that he had been taken to hell (which was confirmed by the heat), and that he had died of septicaemia (which had been a risk early in his recovery), or perhaps from AIDS (he had read a story in The Scotsman about someone with AIDS who died from septicaemia), or from an overdose of a yellow fever injection. He thought he had "borrowed my mother's spirit to show me round hell", and that she was asleep in Scotland

In certain cases the person suffering this order can smell rotten flesh and sees worms and maggots devouring there body where as none of this is actually happening.
Reading this i felt greatful for all that i have in life less or more but i consider myself blessed,i cant think of a suffering worse than leading your life as dead.

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my low fat gaajar halwa (dessert)

Well,this is a recipe my daughter invented as shes quite health conscious but  has a sweet tooth,i was scared to taste it at first but when i did as i had no other option and i was hooked..here goes

you will need
4 carrots(grated)
1betroot(grated)
4tbsphoney
1/2 litre milk
1tsp ghee (or oil)
2cardamoms
6gooseberrys
5almonds blanched

In a thick pan(kadhai) heat the ghee add the betroots and carrots cook on a low flame till the water dries(the carrots and betroot will release some water),now add the milk,gooseberrys,cardamoms and almonds.cook on a medium flame until the milk comes down to half .Then add the honey and cook on a low flame till the milk completely dries off..

serve hot and enjoy the healthy halwa :)

your kid your friend

my daughter
Raising a child as a parent is not easy and raising a child as a single parent is even tougher,one needs to be protective yet not overbearing.
I would often go to a night club or a bar and be shocked to see girls from 19-29age group standing around the bar and accepting the offer of some random guy to buy them a drink followed by dance and sometimes exchange of numbers or leaving together.The thought of my daughter leaving a night club with some stranger as a a return gift for the free drinks was scary so when my daughter reached the age where clubbing was permissible i made sure everytime  she ventured out she had enough cash to spend on herself.i always gave her freedom to do whatever she wants from short dresses,to drinking to late nights with her friends after she turned 18 (before that there was a curfew) I gave her so much freedom that she wouldnt need to hide anything from me more than a mother i became a friend ,my friends always advised me against it and said you will spoil the girl she will start taking drugs and will be out of your hands,i never listened,as a result of this freedom and this bond i formed with her today shes 25,her friends come home at night as well boys and girls alike and i sit with them all and chat or play a game of ludo, she doesnt drink(she did till the age of 22)but quit on her own completely,she doesnt smoke,parties once a week and at times once a month only with her friends or her boyfriend i know they are all safe because i have interacted enough with them over the years,she is the most loving daughter one can have and if shes ever in any kind of trouble i am the first one she calls.She told me of a friend in college who hooked a guy just so she could be driven around i thanked my good thinking that i gifted her a car when she turned 18 so that she wouldnt need to be dependent or be obligated to some one because he drives her around.
A very close friend of my daughters once had a car accident he wasnt at fault someone was jumping a light at 2am her friend went to the police station to lodge a complain and but harrased by the cops till 7am as the law breaker was an influential person so the tables were turned on my daughters friend.He could not call his parents for help because they had been extremely strict with him and he feared that if he would call his parents for help they will bail him out of the situation but will not believe that he was not at fault.
In todays times with these independent kids and the kind of lifestyle thats offered in metropolitans,the kind of crowd you have in schools,the exposure these kids get it is not possible to control either the kids or the exposure and lifestyle but i believe if you are too strict with your kids they will do things behind your back and theres nothing you can do about it nor can you advise them when they go wrong in life.i am a proud mother and nothing feels better than hearing shes a very well groomed child,even the friends who advised against the freedom i gave my daughter today admire her for the girl she has turned out to be.Everyone has the right to disagree but i am proud of the girl i have raised.