the versatile blogger awards

It's Time for The Award Ceremony.

Thank you so much leo paw of bigbitz fame ( http://bigbitz.blogspot.com/ ) for nominating me for the award

its an honor for me to recieve this award from a great blogger like you and it means alot to me ps its my

first such nomination..am soooooooo very thrilled:)

there are 5rules to be followed along with the nomination which are given below

1. Nominate 15 Fellow Bloggers
2. Inform the Bloggers of their nomination
3. Share 7 random things about yourself
4. Thank the Blogger who nominated you
5. Add the Versatile Blog Award picture to your blog post

I feel honored to pass on the award to 15 wonderful fellow bloggers whos posts i have aalways loved to read and have really enjoyed reading the nominations are given below

1.Readittt for  Readitt (the e magazine)

2.Sagittarian for       What Matters Most

3.Saru singhal    for Words

4.Narcissist for  Diary of a Narcissist

5.Apoyando for Striking the chords..

6.Kitty for Kitty's Pitara

7.Mn hopkins for Stranger In A Strange Land

8.Rahul bhatia for Rahul's Blog and collections

9.Deepak karthik for WhateveR iT TakeS !!

10.Rob for Wind Rose Hotel

11.Sujatha sathya for Conversations

12.Priyanka mohanty for Airy Nothing

13.Ellie great for Blogger (Blogspot) - elliegreat

14.Shashi for Blogger (Blogspot) - shadowdancingwithmind

15.Simplified blogging for SB

NOW ITS TIME FOR 7 RANDOM THINGS ABOUT ME

1.I am scared of travelling in metros i fear that i will get lost

2.I am a absolute loner dont have too many friends

3.I am the worst cook in the world you can imagine and my daughter is the real cook whos recipes you read

4.Television gives me a headache

5.I am completely self established and independent

6.I live in a world of my own a fantasy world when i write my poetry

7.I can sleep 24hours a day if given a chance:p

Now its time for me to inform all my fellow bloggers who i have nominated,keep blogging you all.

and a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiggggggg thank you to leo paw

Should prostitution be legalised ?????

A lot of people may disagree with me or even feel offended but this issue has often bothered me and given a choice i would have loved to voice my support to sex workers.I haven't forgotten my grand dads word " wine,woman and gambling has existed  from ancient times and will never become extinct"as a child i could understand wine and gamble but prostitution had such deep and vast meaning it was beyond my comprehension at that age.
Some time back i had a discussion with a Mumbai based friend  about the ban on Beer Bars in Mumbai , few thousand girls lost their source of income . Though the Govt did try to rehab them but it doesn't seem to have worked  and i have a strong feeling it never will as the girls sure cant survive on what they earn from a rehab as they have huge families to support, nor they are educated enough to take up  good paying job due to lack of education nor would people accept them in a society where prostitution is looked down upon until its legalised.Few days back i saw a few girls being arrested  from a cellar of a bar in Mumbai and last night i saw about 300 girls have been arrested in various raids in Mumbai alone in past few days. Everytime i see girls hiding their faces coming out of their hideout with lady cops who look very proud after the kill makes me wonder, why cant prostitution be legalised in our country like few western countries , where a sex worker files an  income tax return and live  a normal life , like any other normal female and is not looked down upon.there are pros and cons in every business ,every relationship , most foods , almost everything then why cant we accept this trade just like any other trade . I accept the fact that there are people who do not afford to be in a bar or a brothel and end up spending all their earnings in such place while their families starve but why cant we have a law where a minimum entry free is charged or right to enter is reserved like a luxury hotel or a night club, by the owners which is not affordable by such people ??The latest stats of men going for paid sex  that  i saw in the news were 23 %  and if we calculate the number considering Indian population its huge. And i am sure that 23% does not include men who must have chosen or not felt comfortable  to disclose that part of their lives . Lets accept the fact men are men they do stray ( not all men) nor can we stop the girls who are in this trade then why not have a system . Men do it for pleasure  its natural instinct with them  and if we go back in History a king could have any no of wives but with women becoming aware of their rites and restrictions by the law a married man is not allowed to have a relationship outside his marriage  but extra marital affairs and one night stands do exist and in huge nos , neither wives nor govt has been able to stop or control them .I personally feel a man who pays for sex is much more honest to his wife as he has pleasure with no strings attached rather than the one who gets entangled in an emotional relationship , where a man in case is not able to balance both sides of his life ends up  hurting himself and both his wife and the other woman .  And where as sex workers are concerned no girl want to get in to it unless she is in desperate need , but who tries to understand them or their problems. who knows how many deaths a girl dies every time she indulges into an act  of no choice.Here i am not at all supporting forced or child prostitution nor trying to defend men who use these services, but i do discount the girls like models or film stars  in case they do indulge into such an activity , i totally understand the reason .sometimes when we are used to luxuries and glamour it becomes difficult for us to maintain a certain lifestyle which one finds difficult to maintain once deglamourised and we live in a democratic country where every one has a right to choose and do what one wants to. I personally visited beer bars in Mumbai one a high end and the other a low end  out of curiosity and understand these females.i couldn't stop myself from dancing with them on the floor with the music on and was actually forced to come back on my seat by my friend , for not being misunderstood by other men present in the bar, but i found no difference between the girls and me as human beings except for they wanted to dance for money but i wasn't there for money ,it was the music i enjoyed.They were all flesh and bones  like me with a heart beat inside , but were wearing a mask that one could not see through .I strongly feel it should be legalised so that these girls do not have to live a life of guilt ,certain measures do need to be taken . Any body familiar with Delhi would know about the round about next to posh Defence Colony market where one can find  a number of girls making inviting gestures and walking up to the cars that had stopped for them and the cops around turn a blind eye as Hafta ( from these girls )  . These girls are harassed if they refuse to pay them (seen with my own eyes and after speaking to these girls personally ) And i am sure every one is aware its not just men these days women too are indulging into buying sex and Gigolo are also on rise in metro pols .  But if you really ask me no govt ,no wife or family can stop a man from from indulging into  it in fact if the prostitution is legalised it will ensure safety ,respect  for the so called antisocial elements of the society and generate revenue for the govt which right now goes into the pockets of  some greedy policemen.
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"whats's your problem " says Veena Malik......

 Veena is back in news ! Though i am not a person who is too much in to bollywood so most of the times  i am unable to recognise the faces except for few Mallika Sherawat,Rakhi Sawant and latest on list Veena Malik ,all three known for controversies but honestly they really have got the nerve of the audience and  being one of them ,i remember  their names by heart , though i don't remember having seen a Hindi movie for past few years , but have seen these faces  in news on eruption of a new contoversy .

Veena got the mantra to remain in the lime light by constantly getting in to one or the other controversy,i find her a smart chick who knows her way up on top. Her entry in bollywood started with match fixing scandal followed by scripted love affair in big boss and now her nude picture on the cover page of an Indian magazine FHM with the initials of Pakistan's feared and powerful intelligence agency on her arm has triggered fury across this conservative nation  though audience of both the countries are thoroughly enjoying it.

 .Conservative cleric Maulana Abdul Qawi declared on Aaj TV on Saturday that her latest venture into controversy was a "shame for all Muslims."

 In an interview with Pakistani Geo television broadcast Saturday, however, Though Veena has not denied having been photographed for a "bold but not nude shot "  but claims that photo was published in violation of her agreement with FHM where as  magazine editor Kabeer Sharma said Malik had given full consent for the shoot and the picture. Asked by reporters whether Pakistan would "pursue the matter" legally, the country's Interior Minister Rehman Malik said Saturday, "First, let us see whether it is real or fake."

 

No matter what one says but Veena sure is to get away with " whats your problem " after all its Veena Malik who knows once the magazine is public Maulanas to  Rehman Malik are all gonna like it and forget what they didn't like , and that is  HER GUTS !!

divorce a taboo

I am divorced and i dont like to use my husbands surname and neither does my daughter but sadly enough everytime she had to fill a form for college application or something there was always an option of fathers name but or local guardian but not of mother name it disturbed me and frustrated me to go to her college explain the situation and have my name written in front of fathers name.
In the metropolitan cities of india a small percentage of people are divorced and are quite open about it but for smaller states and cities like jammu,kanpur etc divorce is a big deal.12years since my divorce yet except for my immediate family in jammu(my hometown)nobody is told that i got divorced as per the distant relatives and friends even uncles and aunts for that matter i am still living happily with my husband in delhi.Though deep in their hearts they do know that i am divorced yet everytime i or my daughter get to see them the same question how is x in a sarcastic manner(thats my ex husband for you).
I cant help but wonder do you really expect everyone to find their soulmate in one go?i mean of course their are many fortunate people who do but not everyone can. When you are young  you make mistakes,you fall in love, get married and after a while realise its not working,he/she is not the one for you,so for the sake of society do you continue suffering in an emotionally or physicaly abusive relationship that is not working or do you set yourself free and live in peace?Why in our country is divorce still a taboo?

sutta and hookah

 Well in our country ie india the legal smoking age is 18 actually theres no legal smoking age but you should be 18 if you have to purchase ciggarettes,not that anyone checks your id.i honestly feel its just for the heck of it.My daughters school friends were smoking already when they were in class 10th that mean around the age of 15 they could easily manage to purchase cigarettes from any vendor without a problem.
Last night i had gone to a karaoke bar in up market south delhi select citiwalk mall with some friends and was surprise to see kids from around 15years of age or maybe below were puffing away with a bottle of beer in their hands and some hookah.Hookah has been in the news lately for being more dangerous than cigarettes itself i was reading 1hour of smoking hookah is equal to having 100ciggarettes in an hours time yet no one seemed to care even.I realised that even cigarette packs have a big warning on it saying cigarette smoking is injurious to health along with a picture of badly effected lungs(by smoking)yet those who have to smoke kids or adults go to the vendor purchase cigarettes ignore the warning and continue smoking.I wonder if the laws made by our govt.are actually effective?or is it just that they haven't been implemented well?or is it us who don't give a damn to the warnings and continue smoking?why make laws that will be flouted?For example in Gujarat alcohol is banned yet those who want to drink manage to smuggle alcohol in the state.I honestly think rather than setting an age that is permissible to purchase cigarettes and the warning signs on cigarette packs if the govt.really wants cigarette consumption by youngsters and everyone else to go down they should simply raise the price of smokes to 100 rupees(around 2dollars) per cigarette now that might help a bit.

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10 wierd names from around the world

I have been cracking up on this and wonder what was going through the minds of these parents while naming there kids?what made them decide on these names,we often as per tradition or due to social reasons or our own personal choiceand normally dont  name are kids tubelight or banana and am glad that my parents named me alka Presenting 10funniest names in the world rounded up from the internet(yes i have been googling too much lately)

1. Batman Bin Suparman

www.flickr.com

21 year old man from singapore

2.Dick Assman

http://www.brianstockton.com/

3.Joker Arroyo

4. GoldenPalaceDotCom Silverman

http://www.casinoadvisor.com/

The golden palace casino wanted some publicity for that they paid some parents to name goldenpalacedotcomsilverman i wonder what the kid feels about it.

5. Rocket

http://www.dailyfill.com/

name of movie director  robert rodrigues kid

6. Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116

http://www.flickr.com/

a swedish boy i wonder how they pronounce the name i cant figure it out.

7.Sage Moonblood
name of sylvestor stallones child










8.Audio Science

Child Of: Actress Shannyn Sossamon








9.Moxie Crimefighter

Child Of: Penn Jillett







10.Diva Thin Muffin

Child Of: Frank Zappa

am i dead or alive cotards syndrome

I was sitting idle today with absoulutely no way to kill time so i went to my best friend google and by chance came across this rare disease called cotards syndrome also known as the walking corpse disease.
I got thinking  how would it feel leading my enitire life thinking that i am dead and in rare case immortal,leading a delusional life smelling rotten flesh and being certain that its my own.I shudder at the thought of leading a life like death,and my sympathies with those who are suffering from this syndrome.i had never heard of this disorder my entire life and was shocked to read about it,researched some more from wikepedia and this is the information i got thought of sharing it.

The Cotard delusion or Cotard's syndrome or Walking Corpse Syndrome^[1] is a rare neuropsychiatric disorder in which people hold a delusional belief that they are dead (either figuratively or literally), do not exist, are putrefying, or have lost their blood or internal organs. In rare instances, it can include delusions of immortality.^[2]
Young and Leafhead describe a modern-day case of Cotard delusion in a patient who suffered brain injury after a motorcycle accident:^[6]

[The patient's] symptoms occurred in the context of more general feelings of unreality and being dead. In January 1990, after his discharge from hospital in Edinburgh, his mother took him to South Africa. He was convinced that he had been taken to hell (which was confirmed by the heat), and that he had died of septicaemia (which had been a risk early in his recovery), or perhaps from AIDS (he had read a story in The Scotsman about someone with AIDS who died from septicaemia), or from an overdose of a yellow fever injection. He thought he had "borrowed my mother's spirit to show me round hell", and that she was asleep in Scotland

In certain cases the person suffering this order can smell rotten flesh and sees worms and maggots devouring there body where as none of this is actually happening.
Reading this i felt greatful for all that i have in life less or more but i consider myself blessed,i cant think of a suffering worse than leading your life as dead.

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