the magistrate from hell

 

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Today i saw the ugliest face of Indian judiciary and what power can do gone are the days when the judges were calm,just and unbiased.here is what happened i would appreciate advise on filing a complaint against a judge as well so feel free to give your feedback and advise.
i have a case against me under section 138 as i had made stop payment of  an advance cheque for which i received no goods and the supplier concerned filed a case in the court.Now  i entered the courtroom of saket district court new Delhi with my bailee . While my lawyer had gone to get  a bail bond  on the 1st hearing  my name was called out,i appeared in the court and  informed the judge ,who appeared to be 35years who sat on his chair like an autocrat.He told me to return with my lawyer as  i returned after10minutes  at 11.15am with my lawyer the judge told us to return at 12pm sharp so my lawyer left telling me he would be back at 11.45. while i waited at 11.25 my name was called again i appeared before the magistrate and told him that my lawyer is will  at 12pm as we were asked to come back at 12. He shocked me by banging my file on the table and said now you return at 12pm which once again we did and waited for the magistrate to return from his chambers till 12.30pm when he did not the bail papers along with the driving license and the car rc of my bailee was sent to his chamber when the license was returned we learnt that the magistrate had retained the rc of a car worth rupees 6lakh for a bail bond near rupees 10000 without even giving us a chance to fend for ourselves.Anyways we were told that we will receive a letter from the court saying the rc has been retained by the court in the meanwhile we should give our thumb impressions in the adjacent room for the bail bond where i was asked to give a bribe of rupees 500 to give our thumb impressions which  i refused and after threatening the concerned person with a complaint against him did he take our thumb impressions now the court letter.It was sent to the magistrate in his chamber which he refused to sign asking us to return again at 2pm to get the letter i had no option so i was there at the courtroom again at 2pm the magistrate entered the room at 2.37pm and signed the court letter while their was another lawyer standing before him requesting the magistrate to reopen the case he had dismissed in front of me the magistrate told the lawyer i am sorry mere se galti ho gai thi i assumed things but mein ab case dismiss karne baad re open nahi kar sakta..when i went outside their was another lawyer complaining about the same magistrate saying that he is not giving the next date to appear for his case..This magistrate was the worst example of justice by far the most arrogant and biased man i have come across.I honestly fear that he will pass a biased judgement in my own case as it is i dont want anyone to face the kind of harassment i have faced at the hands of the honourable metropolitan magistrate so i am going to fight and i am going to file a complaint along with the two lawyers outside the courtroom who wanted to file a complaint against him as well.Please do guide if you have any idea about how to go about it and your comments are always welcome

why do men and women stray in relationships

Few years back i had opined a different view about men , this is when i separated and was newly exposed to rude realities of life, until then i really did not think much about it at all. During my college days the list of my friends comprised  of  mostly boys as i would get on better with them.But one bitter truth and no exposure forced me to believe in a common version about men " all men  are the same "i became so against men that i began to search behind the man's eyes in case i felt he was being  too sweet and kind to me .
I am not here, trying to categorise men but men do stray so do women , at times i try to analyse various reasons for men and women to go outside the marriage , i may be wrong in my analysis and welcome you to make your point and give your opinion as well .Being in a business which gives me a lot of opportunity to interact with my clients(mostly men though) and due to long association with their family members i get an insight of several relationships which  enlightens me on this subject.
Men due to their natural instincts have  craving for a change which may not be common with all of them but it is a natural phenomena and they are able to hold themselves from indulging in such an activity  due to society pressures but they at times they do get carried away, where as women are concerned this kind of indulgence is more heard of and common in present generation due to exposure , availability of opportunities and sources and in young girls for heck of it.
All over the world men and women do get in to a legal matrimony as well as relationships but several of them are found straying . There is a strong need of understanding,wave length, compatibility (it has to be in ideas,food habits and in bed is equally important ) respect for each other to make a relationship or a marriage work.Most of the times i have found men feeling suffocated with nonstop calls from their inquisitive partners , trying to keep a check on them ,and have often wondered  why get married or get into a relationship at all if you do not know your man ?? Here i would like to mention one of my clients wife who always complained about her husband, but on my suggestion that "she should get over with her marriage than sulking all the time" she replied  "i thought i will take it and enjoy the luxuries and status that at my disposal "  really surprise and forced me to think ,  we as women should either take a firm stand else don't ponder on the miseries  Trust has to be a foundation of any relationship i feel , one should take time to know each other so well that you can trust each other blindly than suffocating your partner to the extent that he or she is forced to indulge into something which he or she may not intend to.Several times i have seen men and women lying to their partners about their whereabouts, so keeping a tab ultimately leads to lies and frustration . And in a woman's case i feel they need a lot of attention and appreciation from a man and due to absence of care in a relationship and a marriage they tend to seek it outside the marriage or relationship.The balance in both the cases is very important. But at the same time one must not ignore the pressures one faces in and out side the house. Criticism and abuse is not at all acceptable in both the cases.Apart from the points mentioned above there are factors like weak characters, fatal attraction, fun for heck of it that induces both
to indulge into one night stands or extra marital relationships or two timing while dating someone , which i feel one needs to close eyes on . Such incidents with the kind of exposure this generation has , the  clubbing culture,social networking sites,dating sites,drinking and getting carried away ,which is a norm of open society does make cheating easier and encourage situations like one night stand.
Men and women both if working have better opportunities at their disposal as compared to the rest , but fulfilment at home makes one stronger to have a strong hold on oneself.Several times i have seen girls and women use men for their financial needs and in return get used by them which is quite evident.there is no scarcity of women and girls who don't mind going out with a man for mutual benefits and if such girls and women were not available in the society the choice for a man would certainly narrow down .Particularly the women who get involved with married men breaking the others home is condemnable, so lets not just blame men , women are equally responsible in this particular case.  .

Conclusion:  one who has to cheat will cheat and one who doesn't want to cheat will never cheat ,opportunity or no opportunity doesn't matter and depends on the inner strength one has .In my opinion in to today's time your partner loves you is what should matter to you rest everything one needs to leave behind .

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i was very young when i got married ,a tom boy who knew nothing about relationships nor household chores,an out going ,outspoken girl not a trace of diplomacy got married in to a joint family which was too orthodox, fell like a curse upon me.It was a marriage by choice and me being a girl full of self pride never confided in my family , so i was left alone with strangers who i could not understand nor i had a wave length with any of the family members. I did not know how to deal with my mother in law a typical " sasu ma " who wouldn't stop playing politics , hence the result ,today i stay alone with my daughter ,quite content and happy. Though i haven't seen my mom in law but she has grown quite old now and i have no complaints about the hell she gave me while i was married,nor i complain her support to my x while he was having extra marital affairs .I strongly feel he never deserved a woman like me and i wish i should not have taken that long to dump him and move on.
But when i think of the family politics i feel had i not been too young , i would have been in a better position to handle the situation.I still have not become diplomatic,as there is a saying "people don't change" nor have i but i share each and every thought that crops up my mind,and the situations that i could have handled in a better way if i was i little diplomatic, which has really helped me train my daughter to deal with the world.She may hate a person to the core but never loses her smile. Three years back my niece's marriage was on rocks and the formula of being sugar coated worked for her so well that everything fell in her lap.
No matter what i went through in my marriage but i acknowledge the need for joint family system .Being a sensitive and respectful person i would have really taken care of my in laws when they grew old,we being human beings fight for materials, have traits to get jealous disagree with others point of views and blah blah blah....but in the end we are helpless in front of supreme power.we all came alone empty handed and shall go the same way. being a responsible mother ,certainly i do want to secure my daughter but when it comes to me i hold no desires for materials and same is the case with all of us.I am happy with a pinch of love here  and there and that makes me feel good. my achievements make me proud but the materials i have achieved make me happy as they convey a message i can go peacefully without worrying about my daughter.
if given a chance i would like to leave everything and just write till the end ,of late i have begun to miss my gym ,reduced my work pressure and enjoy writing my blogs , my pleasure is to be heard by people else i feel lost in this world where no one knows no one and each one is lost in the grind of life.

Journey of Kohinoor Diamond from Delhi to Britain

   
                                                                         

India wants its crown jewel: The Kohinoor

Kohinoor diamond at the time it was found,  was said to weigh 793 carats, but through some incredibly ham-fisted cutting and polishing by a jeweller named Borgio it was reduced to 186 carats. This further reduced it from 186 carats to its present size of just less than 106 caratsIt is believed that the Kohinoor carries with it a curse and only when in the possession of a woman will the curse not work.

                                                         
The Mughal Empire was the longest foreign rule which lasted for more than three centuries in India and can be considered one of the largest centralised in pre modern history. The glorious rule came to an end with Aurangzeb's death who was a great ruler and set example by not using the  royal treasury which he believed belonged to the common man.  In fact, he wrote holy quran for his living which many of us may not be aware of(he used to write and sell) .  His wife used to weave skull caps to support his earning. He left seventeen legitimate claimants to the throne that included not only his sons but also his grandsons and great grandsons with his death.  Prince Muazzam assumed the title Bahadurshah I after killing his brother Prince Azam Shah and became the king. After the death of bahadurshah I a civil war broke out his son Jahandar Shah, emerged victorious in it with the support of Zulfiqar Khan who was the most powerful noble of the time. In Deccan Saiyid Husain Ali Khan colluded with the Marathas and attacked Delhi using trickery and intrigue seized Farrukhsiyar in the Red Fort. The emperor was blinded and caged and later poisoned as well as stabbed to death. However, prior to his death, Farrukhsiyar had the dubious distinction of aiding the British to have a firm foothold in India, by signing the much-coveted farman an imperial directive that would seal the future of British takeover of India.(excerpts from wikipedia)

Marathas were now constantly attacking Delhi. Nadir Shah (A Timur descendant) who had already usurped the throne in Persia and seized Kabul and Kandhar  and was invited by Muhammad Shah(only because he was incompetent to fight him due to lack of resources ).  as a guest to Delhi.  Nadir Shah who was in Delhi now  a royal guest , ordered a general massacre of Delhi citizens and looted every bit of wealth they could extort out of the royalty as well as Delhi’s citizens and departed with millions worth of gold, jewellry and coins. Even the emperor’s bejewelled peacock throne made during Shah Jahan's reign was packed on elephants and carried away to Persia. Another prize, the Koh-I-nur diamond (traditionally known as Madnayak or king of Jewels before being named renamed Kohinoor in 18th century  by Ahmad Shah Abdali who started his incursions into Delhi and looted the capital In a series of attacks , he also cleaned out Mathura, Kashmir and cities in Punjab). From the east the British defeated the Nawab of Bengal and occupied the state of Bengal.The Kōh-i Nūr which means "Mountain of Light" in Persian,  Koh-i-Nur, is a 105 carat (21.6 g) diamond (in its most recent cut) that was once the largest known diamond in the world was most recently seized by the East India Company and became part of the British Crown Jewels when Queen Victoria was proclaimed Empress of India in 1877.

my curious mind

This morning while i was writing my post on Marylin and Smitha for some reason lady Diana kept coming in my mind . now while i am writing about her i feel probably she wanted me to write about her,strange things happen in life, this lady would not have ever known my existence even if she was alive  ,though world apart i don't miss a single programme on her . she is one of those ladies i admire not for her being a princess,or being beautiful woman but for her sensitivity.i remember the jolt i got after hearing the news of her death . i still remember having seen her picture in a news paper when she became princess of whales.when i think about strong women i see a vacuum  hidden behind their persona,it may not be the case with all the successful or strong women but it could be the case with women i admire. destiny plays a strange role in most our lives so it did in lady Diana's case.i know how much i hate camilla but at the same time i also accept the fact that prince Charles never loved Diana and love knows no bound and hence the result.but what bothers me more than anything else is what was the need for the prince to marry her atall ,he could have married camilla but again it was destined to happen .i not being religious never believed in destiny but over the years i have established a strong belief in destiny and stars and astrology and cosmic powers and and and the list though not very long but i sure am not superstitious nor have i become religious.but there certainly is a power controlling all of us ,its a mystery which each of us wants to discover but fails like one of the college principals who committed suicide to see death.that was foolish but all of us are so curious to know if there is life after death an unsolved mystery

sets you on fire.......

 This is my contest entry for "sets you on fire"

If i go by my school teachers opinion about me i was never a brilliant student , but honestly as a child i felt i was much above their rating for a brilliant student ,a student who learnt from surroundings not books. i would flunk in half yearlies and a coupLe of times in finals too.every time i got my report card i would erase the actual marks with a blade change the figures ,have by report card signed by my dad ,re erase change back to actual marks and submit the report card. every morning would start with punishment to the extent one of my teacher "Shanta Ma'am " {Hope she reads my blog some day ) would pull my hair so hard that a lot of hair used to get uprooted from the beautiful crown i have ,LOL !! But it did not bother me at all day by day i was getting hardened by the sever punishment and in fact i started collecting my hair that would fall in hope of showing it to my parents who were away to pahelgam for 2 years.it was one of those days when i was told to call my dad to school and i didn't have a heart to inform my dad that his daughter is so notorious ,to talk about the fact i can equate the brilliance of all my classmates put together. incidentally my grand mom came to see me in t school the very next  day d as the luck would five minutes after my grand mom left my class teacher caught me and the first question she shot was "your dad didnt come ??" and my clever mind did not have to think and i shot back"my dari(dadi/grand mom) came to see you but couldn't find you and a little twist of my tongue saved me from situation.

Though  i grew up following Mahatma Gandhis teaching " bura mat dekho,bura mat suno and bura mat kaho" which is not easy to follow but  one of his teachings i have followed more ardently than others and that is lie if if really necessary and for me several such occassions do arrive every now and then ,one of them i would like to share with you all follows ;
i was caught by a traffic cop while talking on the phone while driving (though i was on loudspeaker but he noticed my lip movement ) and i had no choice but to stop my car to the signal from the cop chasing me in a police jeep . i frantically put away my phone under the driving seat while my other phone was lying on the pessanger seat . i pulled aside my car and quitely watched the cop walking towards me ,my mind contantly ticking like a clock as i was carrying neither my driving licence nor the car RC and Rest of the event is narrated below


Me     "Yes Sir"
cop     "you were on the phone "
me      "no sir ,you can see my phone lying on the other seat " pointing towards the other phone lying on the passenger seat

cop   " ma'am you kept it there after you saw us "
me     "never you can check my call record "
cop    " but i saw you talking" he argued in the meanwhile the senior cop had also join him and insisted that he also saw me talking .

me"   no sir,i was singing while driving "

both the cops looked at each others face and honestly i didnt know where to look to hide my sheepish smile and they let me go. i got away with my presence of mind and my  twist in tongue.LOL

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similarities between marilyn monroe and silk smitha 's lives.......

 "good bye norma jean,though i never knew you  at all  but you had a grace to hold yourself , though those around you crawled......." Elton John

Last night was a night of Dirty Pictures ,towards the end of the movie ,i couldnt hold my tears exactly the way i couldnt hold them when i watched a movie based on  Marliyn Monoroes life .Some movies do leave an impact on your mind and being an emotional person i keep pondering over anything that touches my heart and this movie did it again.though i am not a movie buff ,i watch a movie only if its tooooo tooooo good and if its an emotional one its thoughts stay with me for days to come .Neither i had watched the promos nor i new nothing about the story line except that its inspired by a south indian actress silk smithas life who i did not know was dead or alive but by intermission my instincts told me that this girl is going to commit suicide ,thats probably my relationship with understanding of a woman who is selfmade,self risen from trash , exploited by society and last but not least successful and lonely.There are a lot of similarities in such women's lives but some break down and some intend to move on (wearing a mask of happiness to conceal their hollow souls ) and find ways to overcome the loneliness and continue their struggle towards emerging as a stronger person than the people who tried to or did succeed in exploiting them during their down trodden years of life.
the similarity between Marilyn and silk
Such is the similarity between Marilyn and silk smithas life,both started from scratch and became stars over night,both took up a screen name reshma became silk and Norma jean became Marilyn ,both were a part of glamour world and became legends(Marilyn ,world wide while silk industry wide probably will become world wide famous after this movie which has got four and a half *), in both the cases their charm worked for them to reach the top,both were aware of their assets and flaunted them to fullest ,both had at least one affair with a very successful yet married man who deserted them, in both the cases they shared a good repo with their younger brothers of these two men , who  also in the end deserted them for their selfish reasons, both the girls became alcoholics ,self destructive and in the end so lonely that it led to suicide and were cremated by one of their lovers !!